A Ramadan Resolution
Source: Muslims of Calgary
The best thing about the month of Ramadan is that it is a time of purification. And because of that I would like to make my point to in a pure, plain, and blunt manner. I hope that you will agree with me that certain issues must be dealt with head on, and that it makes good sense, sometimes, to talk and listen to one another in a way that shows we have the courage to stand our ground no matter how hard the consequences may be.
Ramadan is a time of abstinence from our everyday luxuries. But it is not only food and drink that I am referring to. As Ramadan approaches many of us, or so I hope, will resolve to do away with music and television and the stronger of us may even give up the internet except for what is seriously essential. Free from these daily distractions we have a hope of focusing our attention on the only thing that matters: becoming mindful of the Almighty and drawing closer to Him. We will watch our language and carefully guard our speech to avoid backbiting or lying. We will frequent the masjid and those of us who would otherwise miss prayer will become more heedful.
Our Prophet Muhammad, Peace & Blessings be Upon Him (PBUH), told that when Ramadan comes the gates of Paradise are opened and the devils are chained. We are told to fast for the sole purpose of gaining Taqwa (consciousness of Allaah). Allaah says in the Quran (what means): "O you who believe, fasting has been prescribed upon you as it has been prescribed upon those before you, so that you may attain Taqwa." [Quran, 2:183] Ramadan is the month when our sins are forgiven, our prayers answered, our good deeds multiplied. One would be a fool not to take advantage of it.
But I`d like to present myself and my fellow young Muslims with a challenge this Ramadan. Rather, I should say, after this Ramadan.
Let me ask a few questions that I am sure have phased all of us after the conclusion of this month. Is our journey towards Taqwa exclusive to only one month of the year? After `Eid Al-Fitr passes, do we just no longer desire closeness to Allaah? Are we so inescapably addicted to the diversions of this worldly life that we cannot stray from them for but one month of the year? This may end up being the case, but why must it be so? Ramadan is undoubtedly a special month. We are motivated to do good deeds during this period more than any other time of the year.
And so here is where the challenge comes in. We must continue our gracious struggle towards Taqwa throughout the year, indeed, throughout our lives. As Muslims, we practice our religion in every aspect of our existence, at every moment we live. Islam is not simply a religion we adopt once a week, or once a year. It is a constant effort to gain greater faith through all of our actions, day and night, Ramadan or not.
I ask my fellow brothers and sisters to not revive their mp3 collections on `Eid day, to not bring their televisions and computers back to life after a long month of fast. To continue watching their tongues, and being observant of their prayer. It will be a struggle, no doubt, but Allaah promises help those who strive for His sake Saying (what means): "As those who strive in Our cause, We will surely guide them in Our paths. And indeed, Allaah is with the doers of good." [Quran, 29:69]
A mission even as simple as "doing good" is extremely difficult at first, with Satan`s whispers deafening our ears and the worldly life`s pleasures blinding our eyes. But according to Allaah`s promise, if we patiently persevere, Allaah will guide us, thus making our paths easier. So as difficult as it may sound now, giving up the things that take us away from Allaah will get easier every day, until it becomes natural. It is in man`s innate nature to seek Allaah, so it cannot be so hard after all. Allaah says in a Hadeeth Qudsi: "And if he (My Slave) draws near to Me a hand`s span, I draw near to him an arm`s length; and if he draws near to Me an arm`s length, I draw near to him a fathom`s length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at speed." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]
If we continue to make an effort to reach Allaah, He will make our sacrifices easier and reward us thereafter.
This year, let us make our Ramadan resolutions last a lifetime. Let us begin this blessed month with the intention of transformation. Let us struggle for the sake of Allaah day after day. Let us chain Satan and work hard to keep our gates to Paradise wide open even after Ramadan. Let us give the fruits of our fasting a true chance to last more than a month, a chance of influence our everyday lives, and eventually our Hereafter.
As the blessed month of Ramadan approaches, it is time to warm up and get ready. Reading the Prophet`s hadiths about Ramadan and its blessings cleans the believers` souls and makes them more eager to enjoy the exceptionally spiritual, soul-nourishing experience of Ramadan.
Following is a collection of hadiths that reveal the status of the blessed month, its merits, rewards and special offers, as well as the Prophet`s example in Ramadan.
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
When Ramadan enters, the gates of Paradise are opened, the gates of Hellfire are closed and the devils are chained. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Umm Saleem (may Allah be pleased with her) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
(The performance of) `Umrah during Ramadan is equal (in reward) to performing Hajj with me. (Authenticated by Al-Albani)
Abu Hurayrah reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Every action a son of Adam does shall be multiplied—a good action by ten times its value, up to 700 times. Allah says: With the exception of fasting, which belongs to Me, and I reward it accordingly. For, one abandons his desire and food for My sake.
There are two occasions of joy for a fasting person: one when he breaks his fast, and the other when he meets his Lord, and the (bad) breath (of a fasting person) is better in the sight of Allah than the fragrance of musk. (Al-Bukhari)
Abu Ayub (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,
Whosoever fasts in Ramadan and then follows it with fasting six days of Shawwal, it is as if he fasts forever. (Muslim)
Moral Training and Self-Disciplining
How Children Receive Ramadan
Laying down the book I looked up at Tessniem. "OK, so what are we going to do this Ramadan?" Her cheerful face lit up. "Paint the windows." Looking at my pretty white sheers I forced my head to nod. "OK, what else do we do during Ramadan?" Omar jumped off the couch… "Not eat, ah, I mean fast." "That`s right, we fast for a whole month," said Tessniem, gently wrapping her arms around her chest and hugging her self. "I love Ramadhaan, it`s fun." Omar said, "Yea, it`s great, we get to choose whatever we want to break our fast with."
I could tell by his eyes that he was remembering steaming corn dogs out of the oven dipped in ketchup with a glass of chocolate milk. "And what makes that food taste so especially good?" I asked sitting upon the couch. Omar raised his hand high into the air like he was in class. "I know, I know," he screamed." Omar you can put your hand down, we aren`t in class now." Omar lowered his arm and smiled "because we are doing it for Allaah and when we eat we remember Allaah."
Tessniem jumped in, "and the poor people who don`t have any food like the ones in Somailia and Ba…" Omar turned to her, "you mean Bosnia." Tessniem looked up at Omar "yea Bas, that place Omar said." Omar`s head lowered and his mouth`s edges dipped down. Taking his hand. "What`s wrong Omar?" "I just remembered the stories about the Bosnians eating grass because there was nothing to eat during the war." Breathing deep, "yea, there is a lot to be thankful for." Tessniem walked up to me with her shoulder raised close to her ears. "Remember that picture of the Somali baby on the ground and the vulture waiting for him to die?" I did not even have to think back, the picture is forever seared in my memory.
Placing my arms around Tessniem, I brought her close to me on the couch. Omar scooted over to me and hugged my other arm. Looking at the floor, he leaned his cheek against my arm. "Mama?" he whispered. I made a soft hmm to let him know I was listening. "Can we send them some money so they can buy food?" Sitting up I smiled, "Yes, every year we give them Zakaat."
Rubbing his eyes I could see his wheels spinning in his brain, got up and ran to his bedroom. I thought for a minute he was going off to cry. I could hear the closet door open and the sound of jingling down the hallway. He quickly turned the corner and stopped abruptly in front of me holding out a plastic spice container filled with paper riyals and change. With his face solemn he moved it closer to me so I could take it from him. "Omar, what do you want me to do with it?" With puzzled expression he looked at me like I was seriously confused. "Mom… It`s for the poor people, who don`t have any food."
Taking the plastic container, I started slowly unscrewing the red lid. "And how much do you want to give to them?" Omar scrunched up his face and held out his right hand upward as if to say `you still don`t get it?` He sighed heavily and took the container and dumped it onto my lap. "All of it Mom!" I thought I should get into the concept of percentages for Zakaat, but it just didn`t seem appropriate.
Looking down on my lap, I knew he had been saving his money for a Spiderman at Wonder World. I was getting ready to tell him about the reward from Allaah when Tessniem appeared in the living room with her spice container bank. Smiling she untwisted the red lid and dumped the money on my lap too. Too touched for words, I hugged them. Looking at the money, Tessniem laid her hand on her cheek thinking. Softly she whispered, "maybe it will buy enough food for that little boy so he can get up and the vulture won`t eat him."
Of course the most logical thing to tell her is that the picture was taken over two years ago and most probably the child never got up and was never buried. But only Allaah knows what happened, and this little girl needed to know that by the mercy she receives from Allah there was still hope.
Common Mistakes Made During Ramadan!
Source: Muslims of Calgary
Most Muslims who fast in Ramadan focus on the benefits and rewards of it. But in doing so, we often make mistakes that instead of adding to our experience actually detract from it. Mistakes that can make us commercialize Ramadan as so many other religions have commercialized their sacred days. Insha’Allah the following will serve as a reminder to, first, myself and then to all Muslims. May Allah help us in spending our time wisely this Ramadan and help us in avoiding these mistakes. Ameen!
1. Taking Ramadan as a ritual
For many of us Ramadan has lost its spirituality and has become more of a ritual than a form of Ibaadah. We fast from morning to night like a zombie just because everyone around us is fasting, too. We forget that it’s a time to purify our hearts and our souls from all evil. We forget to beseech Allah SWT to forgive us and ask Him to save us from the Hell-Fire. Surely, we stay away from food and drink but that’s about it. Although the Prophet (PBUH) said:Jibra’eel said to me, ‘May Allah rubs his nose in the dust, that person to who Ramadan comes and his sins are not forgiven,’ and I said, ‘Ameen’. Then he said, ‘May Allah rub his nose in the dust, that person who lives to see his parents grow old, one or both of them, but he does not enter Paradise (by not serving them) and I said, ‘Ameen’. Then he said, ‘May Allah rubs his nose in the dust, that person in whose presence you are mentioned and he does not send blessings upon you,’ and I said, ‘Ameen.” [Tirmidhi, Ahmad and others]It is classified as Saheeh by al-Albaani]
2. Too much stress on food and drink
For some people, the entire month of Ramadan revolves around food. They spend the ENTIRE day planning, cooking, shopping and thinking only about food, instead of concentrating on Salah, Quraan and other acts of worship. They think so much about FOOD that they turn the month of ‘fasting’ into the month of ‘feasting’. Come Iftaar time, their table is a sight to see, with the multitudes and varieties of food, sweets and drinks. They are missing the very purpose of fasting, and thus, increase in their greed and desires instead of learning to control them. Besides, it leads to wastage of food and extravagance.…and eat and drink but waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allah) likes not Al-Musrifoon (those who waste by extravagance) [Qur’an, al-Araaf: 31]
3. Spending all day cooking
Some of the sisters (either by their own choice or forced by their husbands) are cooking ALL day and ALL night, so that by the end of the day, they are too tired to even pray Ishaa, let alone pray Taraweeh or Tahajjud or even read the Qur’an. This is the month of mercy and forgiveness. So turn off that stove and turn on your Imaan!
4. Eating too much
Some people stuff themselves at Suhoor until they are ready to burst, because they think this is the way to not feel hungry during the day and some people eat at Iftaar, like there is no tomorrow, trying to ‘make up for the food missed’. However, this is completely against the Sunnah. Moderation is the key to everything.The Prophet (PBUH) said: ‘The son of Adam does not fill any vessel worse than his stomach; for the son of Adam a few mouthfuls are sufficient to keep his back straight. If you must fill it, then one-third for food, one-third for drink and one-third for air.’ [Tirmidhi, Ibn Maajah]Classified as saheeh by al-Albaani]Too much food distracts a person from many deeds of obedience and worship, makes him lazy and also makes the heart heedless. It was said to Imam Ahmad: Does a man find any softness and humility in his heart when he is full? He said, I do not think so.
5. Sleeping all day
Some people spend their entire day (or a major part of it) ’sleeping away their fast’. Is this what is really required of us during this noble month? These people are also missing the purpose of fasting and are slaves to their desires of comfort and ease. They cannot ‘bear’ to be awake and face a little hunger or exert a little self-control. For a fasting person to spend most of the day asleep is nothing but negligence on his part.
6. Wasting time
The month of Ramadan is a very precious time, so much so that Allah SWT calls this month ‘Ayyamum Ma’doodaat’ (A fixed number of days). Before we know it, this month of mercy and forgiveness will be over. We should try and spend every moment possible in the worship of Allah so that we can make the most of this blessing. However, there are some of us who waste away their day playing video games, or worse still, watching TV, movies or even listening to music to occupy their mind so that they won’t feel the hunger pangs. Subhan Allah! Trying to obey Allah by DISOBEYING Him!?
7. Fasting but not giving up evil
Some of us fast but do not give up lying, cursing, fighting, backbiting, etc. and some of us fast but do not give up cheating, stealing, dealing in haram activities, buying lottery tickets, selling alcohol, fornication, etc. and all kinds of impermissible things without realizing that the purpose of fasting is to not stay away from food and drink; rather the aim behind it is to fear Allah, to increase our Taqwa.‘O you who believe! Fasting is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)’ [Qur’an, al-Baqarah :183]The Prophet (PBUH) said: ‘Whoever does not give up false speech and acting upon it, and ignorance, Allah has no need of him giving up his food and drink.’ [Bukhari]
8. Skipping Suhoor (sehri)
The Prophet (PBUH) said: ‘Eat suhoor for in suhoor there is blessing.’ [Bukhaari, Muslim].And he (PBUH) said: ‘The thing that differentiates between our fasting and the fasting of the People of the Book is eating suhoor.’ [Muslim]
9. Stopping Suhoor at ‘Imsaak’ (a correction on my part)
Some people stop eating Suhoor 10-15 minutes earlier than the time of Fajr to observe ‘Imsaak’.Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said: This is a kind of bidah (innovation) which has no basis in the Sunnah. Rather the Sunnah is to do the opposite. Allah allows us to eat until dawn: ‘and eat and drink until the white thread (light) of dawn appears to you distinct from the black thread (darkness of night)’ [Qur’an, al-Baqarah :187]And the Prophet (PBUH) said: ‘….eat and drink until you hear the adhaan of Ibn Umm Maktoom, for he does not give the adhaan until dawn comes.’This ‘imsaak’ which some of the people do is an addition to what Allaah has prescribed, so it is false. It is a kind of extremism in religion, and the Prophet (PBUH) said: ‘Those who go to extremes are doomed, those who go to extremes are doomed, and those who go to extremes are doomed.’ [Muslim]
10. Not fasting if they missed Suhoor
Some people are too scared to fast if they miss Suhoor. However, this is an act kind of cowardice and love of ease. Missing a few morsels in the morning will, insha’Allah, not lead to death. Remember, obedience to Allah overcomes everything. Saying the intention for fast out loud or saying a specific dua’a to start fasting is bid’ah. The intention is an action of the heart. We should resolve in our heart that we are going to fast tomorrow. That is all we need. It is not prescribed by the Shari’ah for us to say out loud. Also, there is no specific dua’a to be recited at the time of starting the fast in the Sunnah. Whatever ‘dua’a’ one may see on some papers or Ramadan calendars, etc. i
11. Delaying opening fast
Some people wait until the adhaan finishes or even several minutes after that, just to be ‘on the safe side’. However, the Sunnah is to hasten to open the fast, which means opening fast whenever the adhaan starts, right after the sun has set (and not before). Aa’ishah (RA) said: This is what the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) used to do. [Muslim]The Prophet (PBUH) said: ‘The people will continue to do well so long as they hasten to open the fast.’ [Bukhaari, Muslim]Determine to the best of your ability, the accuracy of your clock, calendar, etc. and then have tawakkul (trust) on Allah SWT and break your fast exactly on time.
12. Eating continuously until the time for Maghrib is up
Some people put so much food in their plates when breaking their fast and continue eating, enjoying dessert, drinking tea, etc., until they miss the Maghrib prayer. That is obviously not right. The Sunnah of the Prophet (PBUH) was that once he broke his fast with some dates, them he would hasten to the prayer. Once you are done with the prayer, you can always go back and eat some more if you wish.
13. Missing the golden chance of having your Dua’a accepted.
The prayer of the fasting person is guaranteed to be accepted at the time of breaking fast.The Prophet (PBUH) said: ‘Three prayers are not rejected: the prayer of a father, the prayer of a fasting person, and the prayer of a traveler.’ [Al-Bayhaqi, classified as saheeh by al-Albaani]Instead of sitting down and making Dua’a at this precious time, some people forego this beautiful chance, and are too busy frying samosas, talking, setting the food, filling their plates and glasses, etc. Think about it…Is food more important than the chance to have your sins forgiven or the fulfillment of your Dua’as.
14. Fasting but not praying
The fasting of one who does not pray WILL NOT BE ACCEPTED. This is because not praying constitutes kufr as the Prophet (PBUH) said: ‘Between a man and shirk and kufr there stands his giving up prayer.’ [Muslim]In fact, NONE of his good deeds will be accepted; rather, they are all annulled.‘Whoever does not pray ‘Asr, his good deeds will be annulled.’ [Bukhari]
15. Fasting and not wearing Hijaab
Not wearing the Hijaab is a major sin as it is obligatory for Muslim women. (See Surah Nur, Surah Ahzaab). So fasting and not wearing hijaab certainly takes away, enormously, from the rewards of fasting.
16. Not fasting because of exams or work
Exams or work is NOT one of the excuses allowed by the Shariah to not fast. You can do your studying and revision at night if it is too hard to do it during the day. Also remember that pleasing and obeying Allah is much more important than ‘good grades’. Besides, if you will fulfill your obligation to fast, even if you have to study, Allah will make your studies and other activities easy for you and help you in everything you do. ‘Whosoever fears Allah, He will appoint for him a way out and provide for him from where he does not expect, Allah is Sufficient for whosoever puts his trust in Him. [Qur’an, Surah at-Talaaq: 2-3]
17. Mixing fasting and dieting
DO NOT make the mistake of fasting with the intention to diet. That is one of the biggest mistakes some of us make (especially sisters). Fasting is an act of worship and can only be for the sake of Allah alone. Otherwise, mixing it with the intention of dieting may become a form of (minor) Shirk.
18. Praying ONLY on the night of the 27th Ramadan
Some people pray ONLY on the 27th to seek Lailat ul-Qadr, neglecting all other odd nights, although the Prophet (PBUH) said: ‘Seek Lailat ul-Qadr among the odd numbered nights of the last ten nights of Ramadan’ [Bukhari, Muslim]
19. Wasting the last part of Ramadan preparing for Eid
Some people waste the entire last 10 days of Ramadan preparing for Eid, shopping and frequenting malls, etc. neglecting Ibadah and Lailatul Qadr. Even though, the Prophet (PBUH) used to strive the most during the last ten days of Ramadan in worship [Ahmad, Muslim] and not in shopping. Buy whatever you need for Eid before Ramadan so that you can utilize the time in Ramadan to the utmost.Aa’ishah (RA) said: ‘When the (last) ten nights began, the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) would tighten his waist-wrapper (i...e., strive hard in worship or refrain from intimacy with his wives), stay awake at night and wake his family.’ [Bukhari and Muslim]
20. Iftaar parties
Although inviting each other for breaking fast is good and encouraged, some people go to extremes with lavish ‘Iftaar parties’ with all sorts of disobedience to Allah, from flirting, mixing of the sexes and hijaab-less women to show-off and extravagance, to heedlessness to Salaah, and Taraweeh to even music and dancing. It’s not too late to rectify ones mistake and do good for the sake of Allah. Inform my servants that I am the Forgiver, Most Merciful. [Qur’an, al-Hijr: 49]